What Eric Taught Us

Navigating life with ADHD, Addiction and Unconditional Love

My Son, Eric Vytautas Audenas was born on August 12, 1995. We had the incredible privilege of adopting Eric at birth. Because his biological parents faced the hardships of addiction, Eric started his life exposed to methadone.  We knew we had challenges ahead of us, but, from the moment we saw our precious newborn, we were committed to giving him a loving, supportive home

Eric had a vibrant spirit and brought a unique light into our lives. He faced significant obstacles, including severe ADHD and ongoing mental and physical health struggles. Yet, through it all, we shared many joyful years, which helped to ease the pain of the difficult moments we would encounter.

One of the most meaningful chapters was the year he spent in rehab, where we were able to witness his hard work towards his commitment to abstinence.  This was followed by a joyous family reunion, when we were blessed with the opportunity of  Eric, once again, living with us.

Ultimately, we encountered one of the hardest journeys any parent can face: learning to love from a distance, as Eric set out to live on his own and chase his dreams.  For over three years, Eric made a life for himself.  Then suddenly, on December 10, 2022, our beloved son passed away from a fentanyl overdose. The pain of this loss is beyond words, but our faith—and the enduring love we carry for him—gives us the strength to move forward.   In our grief, we’ve reflected deeply on what we’ve learned, and what might help other families facing similar paths.

We share these thoughts in Eric’s memory, in the hope that his story may guide others toward safer choices, deeper awareness, and brighter outcomes. 

What We’ve Learned:

1. ADHD, Medication & Alternative StrategiesADHD is often linked with a higher risk for substance use disorders. In hindsight, we now question whether medications like Adderall or Vyvanse were the best starting point for a child already born with opioid exposure. While medications can help some, there are also powerful non-pharmaceutical strategies—structure, therapy, physical activity, and creative outlets—that can support emotional regulation and focus. We urge parents to learn about all available options.

2. Balancing Digital Life with Real-World JoyLike many kids, Eric loved video games and social media. Technology is part of life, but helping kids find balance is crucial. Encourage time in nature, face-to-face relationships, sports, and hands-on hobbies. These experiences foster connection, build resilience, and offer healthier sources of dopamine and joy.

3. The Power of MovementPhysical activity—whether it’s team sports, biking, swimming, or simply being outside—was incredibly helpful for Eric. Movement gave him confidence, structure, and a positive outlet for energy. It remains one of the most underused and effective tools for managing mood and focus.

4. A Vital Warning About Today’s Drug SupplyThis is perhaps the most urgent lesson we can share: the street drug supply is now extremely dangerous. Fentanyl is being found in nearly everything, including marijuana. If you suspect your child or someone you love is experimenting with substances, please have an honest, nonjudgmental conversation about the real risks. In places where cannabis is legal, regulated dispensaries remove the danger of accidental fentanyl exposure. This isn't about promoting use—it's about protecting lives.

Eric’s life mattered deeply. We tell his story not only to honor his memory, but in the hope that sharing it might save someone else’s child. If even one life is touched or changed for the better, that will be enough.

Please talk openly with your loved ones. Carry Narcan if you or someone you know uses recreational drugs. And above all, never underestimate the power of prevention, connection, and unconditional love.

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